By Parthasarathi, SJ
Until I completed my study of philosophy, I had never thought of youth or youth ministry seriously. After I completed two years of philosophy, I was thrown into the world of youth and soon I found it was a world of creative tension.
When I started my journey with the youth in 2013, I realized that fostering hope in the younger generation is crucially important. As an advisor of Tamil Nadu AICUF (All India Catholic University Federation), I planned the programs and asked the youth leaders to execute them as I expected. This went on for about six months, and then I pondered on my experience.
I was surprised to realize that instead of serving the youth, I treated them like my employees. They did what I asked them to do. I experienced an inner emptiness. I learnt nothing. Then I requested the state president of T.N. AICUF to plan and lead the team for the next six months, while I just watched and shared my opinions when asked for. They did wonderfully well and I could see that many of the youth blossomed into leaders. Their talents emerged and surprised me. I encouraged them to question and analyze every situation.
I had my own ideas of a moral and ethical life. Then I read about the concept of deconstruction, originally developed by philosopher Jacques Derrida. It involves breaking down ideas, texts, or systems to reveal their underlying assumptions and contradictions. Finally, youth reconstructed the idea of youth in me. Their optimism, resilience, openness, and readiness to face challenges inspired me very much.
By listening to them keenly I learnt a number of lessons needed for my life and mission. I have realized that listening is a prerequisite for youth ministry. Instead of expecting youth to listen to us, we need to listen to them, without any prejudices. By listening to them you create a space where they can build hope and faith in life. We need not preach, teach, or give lectures to empower them. All we need to do is to listen patiently to their aspirations, desires, concerns and sorrows. I have learned that listening is also an important grace that every individual, especially everyone who wants to serve the youth, needs to develop.
Listening is a powerful tool in youth ministry to foster emotional and spiritual growth and maturity in youth.
“Listening is an art that requires attention over talent, spirit over ego, and others over self,” said Dean Jackson. Listening is a powerful tool in youth ministry to foster emotional and spiritual growth and maturity in youth. Only after listening to them you can tell them what they need to hear. Only then you encourage them in a meaningful way to do what they can, and to actualize their hidden potential creatively.
Another thing that helps us realize the value of listening is the sacrament of reconciliation. Just by listening to the penitent actively and without any judgement we can play a role in healing the wounded soul.
A nun shared with me that her younger sister quit the Catholic Church and is now going to a Protestant church because she found no one in the Catholic Church who would listen to her agony. All of us, priests and religious, should realize that just because we are too busy and too self-centered to really listen to those who want to talk to us, we may be losing them for ever.
We should keep asking ourselves if our ears are open to the cry of the poor and the struggles of our youth. Youth are searching. They question, they argue, because that is how they gain knowledge, how they come to understand. They explore, experiment, want to experience, and only then they will practice it. This period in their lives is a time of a journey of discovery of self and the world. Every youth is a powerhouse. They can use this power to create or to destroy.
As youth ministers we are just co-passengers. If we would provide them space and encouragement needed for growth, they would let us enter their lives. Youth animators need to be genuine and generous. We must understand that we can’t reap the fruit of our labour immediately. Working for and with youth is a long-term investment.
Teaching young people to navigate their emotions and develop empathy is crucial for maintaining hope in the face of complex realities.
Based on my experience, let me offer some concrete proposals for sustainable, effective youth ministry:
1. Provide safe spaces for disagreement and questioning: Youth need areas where they may voice their doubts, pose questions, and disagree with conventional wisdom without fear of retaliation or condemnation.
2. Encourage media literacy: In an age of information overload and misinformation, teaching young people to deconstruct media messages is crucial. This skill enables them to navigate the digital landscape critically.
3. Emphasize the power of counter-narrative: Deconstructing and reconstructing narratives can be a powerful tool for fostering hope. Young people can learn to craft counter-narratives that inspire positive action.
4. Facilitate intergenerational dialogue: Bringing together youth and older generations for discussions about social issues and personal experiences can provide valuable perspectives on how ideas and systems have evolved.
5. Engage in practical problem-solving: Applying deconstructed ideas to real-world problems allows young people to see the tangible impact of their critical thinking and to look for solutions to their own personal problems as well as global issues like climate change. Help them cultivate a mindset that embraces possibility and sees challenges as opportunities for growth and positive change.
6. Foster emotional intelligence: Teaching young people to navigate their emotions and develop empathy is crucial for maintaining hope in the face of complex realities.
As the whole Society of Jesus is undergoing the process of Reimagining and Restructuring, we need to reimagine and restructure this important ministry too. Every Jesuit is a potential Youth Influencer. Let us create a hope-filled future for our youth by listening to them and accompanying them.

Fr Parthasarathi, SJ, (CEN) is the province coordinator of youth ministry and State Advisor for T.N. AICUF. He can be contacted at sarathisj@gmail.com.